Hello Everyone,
I'm doing something a bit different with comments and replies.
Before what I use to do is hold off posting a comment until I was able to answer and reply to the question or situation.
But what was happening is that some of you (and quiet rightly) thought that your comment didn't go through and would post a 2nd time.
Of course that has caused some confusion since many of you prefer to post as "anonymous" instead of putting your initials.
So to prevent that or at least decrease the double postings I'm going to post your comment and then meditate on a reply.
Some of it will require doing a reading, some of it will be to spiritually contact my guides, so it will take a little time.
But do not fear I will answer your comments or concerns or about your situation, but please have patience.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
I am a person who dealt with a lot last year. It seems I've acquired problems known and unknown. How do I gain insight into my own situation and answer my own questions under such circumstances and with little knowledge and skill and experience?
ReplyDeleteMy Dear,
DeleteWithout a little more information if this is physical or spiritual I’m flying blind here.
I may have to answer this in several parts------
So let’s take it first in the physical world.
First thing is no one acquire problems unless they consciously decided to take it on, in some cases things are thrust upon them without forewarning, to give you an example, I suddenly became my Mother’s caregiver when she had the first of 3 strokes, each one worse, I was exhausted, without a support network, I was stumbling and learning along the way, now years later there are support groups which I never had. So always inquire if there are groups or organizations that can help.
If need be Get a Lawyer to protect yourself.
In other cases we sometimes, thinking (mistakenly) that we are being supportive, taking on another person’s drama, because we’d feel guilty if we didn’t, we don’t have to, in those cases it’s better to say to that person that they need to see an consuler to help out.
How does one gain insight to one’s situation, well you first have to see what is around you that can directly affect you be it where you live, people (both family, friends or co-workers), where you work and your own future. Many financial organizations say it’s wise to plan for your future retirement that never hurts.
This is where one needs to take a step back and look at any situation or person as if you were looking at it from the outside and not within it. See what is the positives and negatives of anything.
Most importantly with anyone family or friends Do Not be Afraid to say “NO”. And never loan money, co-sign for anything or bail anyone out, it leads to grief.
Learn from the mistakes of others, from older family members, what they did, what they didn’t do.
Also in making a decision do not be pushed into making one, you can always say “I need to think about it”, people use threats, will cajole or sweet talk you, you operate from a logical point of view, not from the emotional.
Apply the 10 rule on decision making it goes like this “How will I feel 10 seconds from now, 10 minutes, 10 hours, 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months, 10 years?” I have found that by applying that rule I have avoided disastrous decisions.
Always be informed, read articles in magazines or newspapers, watch the news, and I’m not talking about TMZ or any of the entertainment programs, I like watching the law programs such as “Judge Judy”, “People’s Court”, “Judge Alex”, etc, even the Steve Wilkos show, you learn how people make such dumb choices.
Be organized, allow time for delays, remain calm, And no matter what get everything in writing, take photos, keep it in files, document, document, document----I did that and it helped me get a restraining order.
And never borrow drama from anyone else, stay out of it, remember this Polish saying “Not my monkeys, not my circus”.
With the problems that you do have, see how it can be handled either through an organization or delegate it to someone else, you do not have to take the world on your shoulders, if you want answers be the ‘squeaky wheel’ keep at it until you do.
But there is a trick to this, I needed answers to a question so I called and when I talked to the first person I said “I’m not sure how this can be handled I hope you can help me” be unfailingly polite, I’ve used the phrase “I’m not sure what your limitations are to answer this, is there someone who can?” The saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar” is true because by doing that I have had people go the full football field for me.
And I have to admit it took me years to learn this, one other thing I learned from my Grandmother and Mother, do not be so quick to jump into a conversation, let the other people spill out all the information they know and then when there is a break in the conversation ask a question to clarify things, it’s better to be silent and look wise than to open your mouth to speak and look foolish.
Continued in Part 2
Part 2
DeleteNow on the spiritual side.
Not knowing what spiritual situations you may have, to seek the answers to things I recommend meditation as one aspect of it. Just sitting quietly some place where you are not disturbed by cell phones, loud music, loud outside noises even upset children, and say to the Divine Presence “I have this problem, show me how to handle it, what are my choices, show me what choice would work best for me.”
Another thing is to pray to Saint Clare of Assis for clear thinking to find answers, light a candle to her, and ask her for inspiration to see answers and focus first on the flame and then close your eyes and sit quietly for at least 15 minutes----it’s hard because we have the ‘monkey chatter’ going on in our mind.
Sometimes after I do that I go and do something repetitious like washing dishes, there is something almost meditative having ones hands in the water and just doing the dinner ware, it helps when there is no one around again having peace and quiet and then the answers will slowly dawn upon you.
Now if it’s to do a spell or ritual for something specific check my blog and see if the answer is there among the postings, if not then come back and ask me a question and I hope I can answer it for you.
But everything I have to admit has taken time for me to learn, and in many cases in my life it has been suddenly thrust upon me when I didn’t want it but in looking around I found I had no choice.
I hope that is not what you are facing. So I decided to do a one card reading for you and the card I drew is the Knight of Wands, but it is reversed
The meaning behind this reversed card is the dark essence of fire, such as a great conflagration: One filled with vitality and limitless appetite. Either you or someone you’ll meet or have met is a sexy and exciting person, obsessed with style and outward appearance, overconfident in their abilities, and foolhardy in their actions. You may know a person with a hot temper and domineering nature, coupled with a love of false drama and all things theatrical.
You may find yourself having Anxiety over remaining in one place or with one person for too long. This intimated the rapid approach, or more likely departure, of someone or something that ruptures your world. A card like this often suggests travel as the result of discord, or cruel indifference, an attempt to escape the situation.
This card indicates delays and frustration, getting nowhere, and feeling anger at obstacles and at being denied what you want to have, representing a loss of personal power or the negative use of power. It can indicate that you are trying to camouflage or compensate for your inability to control this situation. Accompanying emotions may involve a loss of self-esteem and pessimism.
This card is warning you to not be impulsive, restless, impatient or lack foresight, you need to be very careful of not rushing into things without thinking it through first. Even if you are starting to get frustrated with a lack of action, you need to consider the consequences before doing something. If this is someone in your life, then it is best to steer clear of them for the time being. They need to make these mistakes in their life to learn and improve, and cannot necessarily be controlled or held back at this point.
You could be at risk to either act or say things impulsively that you may later regret. You want things ‘fixed’ right now, you do have everything worked out but you do not seem to allowing yourself time to think through what is best for you. You need to be careful to not react instantly to everything that happens, give your circumstances some space and time before you take action. You may be feeling frustrated that certain things impact your situation that you feel you can’t control. You need to remember there WILL be things that you can control and change as you want to. Just take a deep breath and relax.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Its more spiritual then any thing. What made it bad is looking towards others for answers which opened me up to further exploitation. So self suffiency is the answer. Not sure about the person of drama if it is a person. Yes I traveled. I'm seeking a new home else where as far I can get and still be on US soil. Which is located on some islands in the alantic. The tropics, the ocean and its forests suit me and enjoying myself. I'm where people are less frustrating and I'm trying to put distance between me and those I care about so my drama won't affect them. Sorry if I was rude.
ReplyDeleteMy Dear your apology is accepted, but I did not think of you as being rude just extremely reserved, possibly afraid to reach out and reveal too much of yourself.
DeleteIn looking to others for answers you may have talked to the wrong people, ones with their own agenda or lack of maturity. There’s one thing I always recommend to folks who are in situations similar to yours and it entails going on a spiritual retreat. This type of retreat that I recommend is set up by different monasteries and missionary orders of the Catholic Church. Now I know some folks would reject that because of the problems with their priests, but not at these retreats.
There you would be living a very simple existence in contemplation, prayer and guidance. No drama, no personal agenda. There is one in the Santa Cruz Mountains in California called St. Clare’s Retreat, if nothing else to help retrieve your soul.
Now I only suggest this particular retreat as an example but there are others all over the U.S. go on the internet and check them out see if there is one that you feel may help you. And in life you don’t have to go it alone, just use those guide lines that I posted as an aid to help you discern the right course of action and speaking to the right person and having the right person(s) in your life.
A certain amount of solitude is fine, but being able to interact gently with others helps keep one connected to the world, if nothing else but to realize that in some ways we have to go through what we are going through as a life lesson, but in the end we come out of it better.
When I feel I’m having a difficult time of it I’m reminded by this saying “I thought I was poor because I had no shoes, until I met a man with no feet.”
My blog is here and will be here for as long as I am able, to help you and everyone.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Do have everything worked out? I don't think so? Doesn't seem like it but then after this series of ruin.... Maybe asking the divine is best
ReplyDeleteI have found Dear Child, that when in doubt give it up to the Divine, and then answers will come and appear before us, in many different ways.
DeleteHave Faith even when things seem the hardest, have faith.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Thank you. I will ask a priest. As for those who took advantage I see it as a sign and lesson to be more self reliant.
DeleteYou are Very Welcome,
DeleteIt doesn’t hurt to be self reliant yet cautious, but at the same time, depending upon the situation or circumstances, it doesn’t hurt to seek help, because all of life is a life lesson, it’s good that you’ll be talking to someone, I pray that you will find the guidance you need.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
It not I don't want to reveal the spiritual side of things. Its a case of I don't know what is going on and it is a case as you said, not your circus, not your monkeys.
DeleteThe only thing I do know concerning it is I have upset and offended many spirits. Would be ok to ask whom and how to make amends and part ways? If I cannot get them on my side I rather them seperate and go our own ways.
The legal side is diffirent.
I have no legal is issues right now but the risk is there. From whom or what this issue be coming from? What will be the topic? Will it be a private individual or an organization? For me, I can see it concerning perhaps a relative (ex sister in law most likely) or the goverment. Would it be either of these or something else?
Cause I cannot deal with legal problems on top of every thing else right now. Sorry for the many question with this issue yet forewarned is forarmed.
Sorry for so much question but it a huge mess.
My Dear,
DeleteMy apologies, I just caught up to your question today, for some reason it went into Spam.
And I've been having power issues because of the storm.
I have your questions, I'll need a little time to meditate on it, but I will not forget you.
Right now I do not sense the legal aspect coming into play at this time. But I will look into it further.
On the spirit side, if they are relatives, one can make amends with them. If they are other spirits that you may have called in, that is a little harder, but something can be done.
Give me a little time to meditate on this and I'll will have an answer for you.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Thought you said thee are legal issues. My mistake. Thank you
DeleteSorry for your power issues. May your days be sunny.
DeleteNot sure. The woman you mentioned is a spirit altering and feeding on me. The almost sorted thing is a result of another person of an eastern path re writing my path my karmic or incarnation outcome. So it seems positive but it is not. I feel I'm being erased and replaced by both. I feel as wrong path. There is fire being used. I see with my very diminished senses it being used to burn things. There are other things but I don't know very well or are unknown. I was told by one person spirit that I "blind in one eye"
DeleteMy main concern is becoming the person I was before. If not that free and not being used to hurt others.
Thanks for assistance.
Hello My Dear,
DeleteIn the case of the spirits if they are spirits of deceased family members there may be a way to find out, in the case of “nameless spirits” I’m not so sure, unless you happen to have an idea of who or what they may be.
This is what you can do, it would require an egg or maybe a couple of eggs, depending.
First bathe the egg(s) in Florida Water or Holy water, allow them to dry. While they are drying make a list of those whom you believe in spirit is disturbing you.
Then when the egg(s) are dry, take a felt tip pen and make tiny circles all over the egg like one ones you see in true false tests. Then read off one at a time the name on your list, when you read the name with the felt tip pen do a check mark on the circle on the egg, if nothing happens, also check that name off your list, and move to the next name and the next circle and repeat, keep doing that until when you check off the circle if the egg should break when you say the name then that is the spirit that is disturbing you.
Then you will need to light a blue candle and a white candle, anoint the blue candle with Peace Oil, the white candle with St. Michael Oil, pray for the spirit to find rest, then recite the Our Father prayer and the Hail Mary prayer then finish with “Eternal rest, grant unto them O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. Amen” Do the candles and prayer for 7 days, and then once a week afterwards for one year.
That should help with the spirits.
If you feel that you are being "erased" but you don't want to be, then do an Egg cleansing spell (check my archive for egg cleansing) first, to capture what they are doing, and then a 13 herb bath (again check my archive) wear a blessed St. Michael medal to keep your spirit anchored so you'll have a chance to be the person you want to be.
To be "Blind in one eye" means you see but you don't see, the thing is you do see but are not sure how to proceed. What I've suggested is a start, the rest will come to you, read my back posts on my blog and you will find information that will help you.
In your next post you understood what I meant about legal issues. That's fine.
It will all work out my Dear, Just have faith.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Dear Ms. Q
ReplyDeleteMy apology that I need to bother with my frustration and depression. I keep reminding myself to stop thinking about him but it seems very tough that i cant let go of him. It is even difficult given that we work in the same department and see each other. May I consult you if really any slim chance that we both can get back to together ?
Best regards
Ms. Y
Dear Ms. Y,
DeleteOf course you can.
This part is always difficult in dealing with Love, but you do have to remember that you need to be open to other possibilities that are out there.
Do not close yourself off with your frustration and depression, otherwise you will miss out on something wonderful.
When the weather begins to warm up (at least where I'm at) I think you'll begin to see things and people and your spirit will grow lighter and not so heavy hearted.
Hang in there and do not despair.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Thank you Ms. Q.
ReplyDeleteAs always you are kind and loving.
I did try to walk out home and commint myselfnin more social work. However deep down heart would like to see if really a chance of reconciliation. For your advise if my case is possible for reconciliation?
Sorry for bothering you.
Thank yoh very much and lots of loves,
Ms. Y
Dear Ms. Y,
DeleteTrust me you are not bothering me, you are going through a difficult period in your life, completely understandable and difficult to heal from.
Unrequited Love, is the hardest to deal with, the fact that the two of you are in such close proximity makes it even harder and because of that one thinks there is hope when there maybe none.
I drew another card for your situation and it was the Eight of Pentacles (Prudence), but reversed.
This means paying undue attention to small details at the expense of not seeing the big picture. Losing yourself in this to the detriment of your personal and spiritual life. Making the same mistake repeatedly. Refusing to learn life’s lessons.
The reversed Eight of Pentacles works as a stop sign. For a relationship, this can show a break between the two lovers. A parting of the ways.
The opposite partner described by this card is someone who lacks seriousness about relationships. It is because he is not interested in thinking about the future of the relationship. He is not interested in being with you. This also applies to feelings of love interest. That is, he is not interested in you. To him it is over and done with, but because you are still hoping because of the close proximity you are not seeing the bigger picture or keeping yourself open to other possibilities to a new love coming to you, that is what the reverse eight of Pentacles is saying.
I am so sorry My Dear Ms. Y, but with all those reversed cards and now this one, reconciliation is not going to happen, as painful as this is for you, sadly it is not.
I want you to do a 13 herb bath, so this can start to wash away the pain that you are feeling, you’ll find the posting 13 herb bath in my tags or archives.
Then I am going to do another posting about Honey jars to find a new Love, as a matter of fact I’m thinking of doing a series of postings on Honey Jars, when you see it posted I want you to do it so that a new love will come to you, but you first have to do the bath, if that doesn’t work there is a very simple clearing spell or uncrossing spell that you can do, but do the bath first for 13 consecutive days, if after that it doesn’t seem to work, post a comment to me and I’ll give you that clearing spell as well, then you do the Honey Jar for new Love.
But remember most of the work has to come from within you, get out meet new people, become involved in charity work, volunteer to do work at a church, be part of a 2 K walk for charity, get yourself in shape, make yourself look pretty, smile, and most of all let him go mentally and spiritually, otherwise you will miss out on a lot of things in life and you are too young to have that happen.
As always do not be afraid to ask me questions, I’ll be happy to answer.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Dear Ms Q
ReplyDeleteThank you very much as always being so helpful and thinking for those who seek for your help. Sincerely appreciated.
I will read on the 13 herb bath and look forward to your honey jar posting.
Really, thank you very much sister Ms. Q
Best regards
Ms. Y
You are welcome Ms.Y.
DeleteIt may take a little time to post it because of the power fluctuation because of the storms were having but it will get posted.
Part of my problem is I'm writing it in sections when I have power but it will be there.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Dear Ms. Q
ReplyDeleteNo worries dear. I hope the power disruption did not impact you too much. Please have a good rest for yourself too.
Many thanks
Ms. Y