So What are Soul Mates???

Hello Ms. Q,

In my last post I talked about group souls, in group souls we do have individual members that we will meet again and again, now these are not all soul mates, but those that we are closely allied to that we will re-incarnate again and again but in different ways, in one life time you could have been mother-daughter in the next that could be reversed, that soul who was the daughter will be the mother in the next life time, or husband and wife and again reversed.

In some instances, brother sister or sister sister or brother brother, best buds, best friends, but we made that bargain before we were born, in that case we then are similar souls from the same soul group but more refined.  

Soulmates takes it a step further, according to various dictionaries a soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, friendship, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust.  The word is used with more rarity than the terms also associated with 'romantic partner'. The term is a very versatile term, being defined differently by different individuals, as it is related to the concept of love. It commonly holds the connotation of being the strongest bond with another person that one can achieve.

But it also can mean two people with strong similar beliefs who work for the greater common good, such as scientists who work to find a cure for cancer they come together, see within each other that spark that’s needed for research, they even have a relationship that is so unique as they may seem of one mind.   Even though they may be married to different spouses.

A fictional reference is Perry Mason and Della Street, they work together, are supportive of one another even do a slight flirtation but they are not married to each other, nor did it appear that they had any sexual liaison with each other.

Another but real life example of this relationship was J. Edgar Hoover and his secretary Helen Gandy, she remained his secretary and “guardian of the gates” until his death and even after, this was in addition to the alleged relationship to his assistant director Clyde Tolson. Both J. Edgar and Ms. Gandy were dedicated beings even if J. Edgar has his detractors.

The concept of Soul Mates was theorized by Plato in one of his dialogues where the soul was both male and female as well as androgynous but the gods divided them into separate sexes until “It is said that when the two find each other, there is an unspoken understanding of one another, that they feel unified and would lie with each other in unity and would know no greater joy than that.”

In Theosophy beliefs it is thought that God created androgynous souls—equally male and female. Later theories postulate that the souls split into separate genders, perhaps because they incurred karma while playing around on the Earth, or "separation from God." Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate.

The Jewish faith believe in the concept of  Bashert, this is a Yiddish word that means "destiny". It is often used in the context of one's divinely foreordained spouse or soulmate, who is called "basherte" (female) or "basherter" (male). It can also be used to express the seeming fate or destiny of an auspicious or important event, friendship, or happening.  In modern usage, Jewish singles will say that they are looking for their bashert, meaning they are looking for that person who will complement them perfectly, and whom they will complement perfectly.  And this is in spite of how well or how bad their married life works out.

Many critics and psychologists say that looking for a soul mate is unrealistic, because what if you do have only one soul mate somewhere in this world, or what if they had not been born yet it would be a nightmare.

I had one person, a man come to me claiming that this woman that he knew at work was his soul mate and he wanted to be close to her to the point of eventually asking her to marry him.  Well I met the lady and although she was very nice, she only regarded him as a friend that she was willing to help out from time to time but her feelings were that only of friendship, not love.

I saw that she was romantically involved with another man and I felt that in this life time they were supposed to be together, but the original gentleman in question who had such powerful feelings for her was having a hard time dealing with this.  I had to explain to him that in this lifetime they were to only be friends that she had to work out a karmic destiny with the other man, but for him to be a good supportive friend, because in this lifetime that is what she is going to need.   

I explained to him how convoluted the workings of soul mates are, and that we make these bargains to work things out in our karmic destiny, and sometimes it’s hard for the soul to recognize that.   He eventually understood, and in time after she had children the children regarded him as an Uncle, he also had a father that became so ill that the gentleman had to devote time to his father’s care and well-being for many years.  After his father died the gentleman told me that if he had pursued marriage with the young lady, they would have eventually divorce, it would have been too great a strain on the relationship, but by being a friend things worked out very well.

But what if we did have one randomly-assigned perfect soul mate, and we couldn’t be happy with anyone else? Would we find each other?   Let’s assume your soul mate is set at birth. You know nothing about who or where they are, but—as in the romantic cliché—you’ll recognize each other the moment your eyes meet.   Right away, this raises a few questions. For starters, is your soul mate even still alive?  

In many cases that soul mate may not be born in this time frame because they may need to work something out in their karma in a different situation, with different souls at a different time.   So it is possible that this time around you will not be with your “Soulmate” but with someone who agreed before the both of you were born to get together and have a relationship that would be a learning experience for both of you.   It could lead to marriage, for however long or short it would be.

The word soulmate is a noun and the first time this word actually appeared in usage was in 1822

It was to mean : a close friend who completely understands you : a person who has the same beliefs and opinions as another person :  a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament:  a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs aka ideological soul mates.

This can mean either husband and wife, or a very close companionable friend.

The trouble, however, is this: New research suggests that wishing newlyweds well by invoking the idea of “soul mates” may be not be the greatest idea. The very concept seems to make people more dissatisfied with their relationships when asked to recall conflicts, according to the study, led by University of Toronto marketing professor Spike W.S. Lee. Because if you cling too tightly to the idea that your partner must be your other half, it means that the two of you “should have perfect harmony, no conflicts whatsoever,” Lee said. “When reality proves otherwise, as it almost inevitably does, it hurts all the more.”

However in we have also read of couples who have been married 50, 60, 70, 80 years and have actually died on or about the same day,  but in interviewing them the term soul mate never came up, the actual term was “Best Friend” as well as using the term “we were in for the journey”.    These couples just knew they were in it “for the long haul”.   None of this romantic business, they lived, loved, laughed, argued, worked together, cried together, cared for each other, worried about each other, helped each other.   In many cases chores were shared, it was not unusual for a man to bottle feed the baby, or change the diaper or help the wife hang up clothes, and it was not unusual for the wife to help the man paint the house,  shingle the roof, milk the cows in some cases.    

But the term Soulmate was never used, Best Friend was.  

Lee and colleagues rounded up 73 people of all ages from Ann Arbor, Michigan, all of whom had been in a relationship for at least six months. The participants were asked to take a quiz, ostensibly to gauge whether they’d heard some common expressions before. But one group was given several phrases that alluded to the idea of soul mates: “we are one,” “my better half," “made for each other.” The other group saw phrases that brought to mind a journey: “we’ve walked together,” “a long trail," “look how far we’ve come.” After that, the volunteers were told to write down either two memories of good times, or two memories of bad times, that they’d shared with their partner. Finally, they rated how satisfied they were with their relationships.

The results seem to come down in favor of viewing love as a journey. The people who recalled a conflict after being primed to think soul mates said they were unhappier in their relationships, compared to those who’d been primed to think journey.

Researchers who study relationships typically have placed people’s beliefs about romantic relationships on a spectrum that falls somewhere between two categories, “destiny” and “growth.” Those in the destiny camp believe in soul mates, maybe love at first sight and certainly the idea that there is one person out there you were meant to be with, while growth people believe romance takes effort. And most people are a blend of the two.

Couples who are, at their core, very good friends are also more likely to be more in love, be more committed to each other, and even have better sex than couples who value their friendship less.

So finding one’s soulmate is not necessarily looking into another person’s eyes and saying “This is it!!!”   and that you will be so compatible, that there will never be any conflicts, no that is wrong, and I should know.

I have had a number of relationships, many didn’t last that long maybe 6 months to a year, and then something would happen and it just drift way and I didn’t even think twice about it, but I did learn more about the human condition and the human heart.

But there were 4 that were more serious, I married and then divorced one, was engaged and broke up with another, was very, Very good friends with a third until he died from complications due to AIDS, and the fourth one I’ve been with for over 25 years. 

With number one, I felt the pressure to get married, so did he, his friends were married and I was heading into the age of being called a “spinster”, neither of us were married before, of the same religious faith, no children so we thought why not.  Big Mistake!    After we were married we discovered our expectations were entirely different, I felt we should work as a team and he felt that he should call all the shots, wanted me to turn  my entire paycheck to him, not have contact with my parents, well you can see where that was going.  

 Luck however was on my side, by accident, when he thought I was spending the night at my parents’ house,  I realized I’d left my wallet at home, upon returning home I caught him in bed with another woman.  I chased both of them out of the house with a broom, they were naked, I did throw to her, her purse, shoes and coat, I kept her dress, she cried out “How am I to get home??”  I yelled back “Walk!!! That’s what all the Hookers do!!!”  

Him I kept outside the entire night, he had to hide behind the garbage can and a couple of cardboard boxes, I let him in early the next morning so the neighbors wouldn’t complain and stated “I Want a Divorce!”  He didn’t argue.   Some years later we both agreed if two people should not have married each other we were it.

My 2^nd relationship I was engaged to a man who was widowed, two children, but I felt it was workable, however because he was a member of a small church group they feared him marrying someone who was not of their church, they introduced him to another woman and while he and I were still engaged he married this other woman and didn’t tell me for 6 weeks.  He did make amends by paying me a large amount of funds which I used to repair my parents’ house, and I kept the engagement ring and matching wedding band.

My 3^rd relationship was very friendly and very sad, he was gay, had a gay lover, but it seemed that we liked the same things, understood the same things but even though we were the same age I felt that spiritually he was many years older, like a mentor.  He contracted AIDS and his partner couldn’t handle it very well, and fortunately did not contract the illness, but he emotionally distanced himself from my friend, so we talked and I dealt with the onset of the mild dementia that he suffered.  

 When he was in hospice we talked about death, I held his hand, and I saw a look in his eyes a look of pure love, it penetrated my soul, and I knew what it was.  He said “I Love you” and I said “I love you too” and I felt a powerful sense of energy reaching out between him and me, it was overwhelming,  I thought I was going to cry.   Then when it died down he asked me if I could come back tomorrow I said I would, then he said “Please call first” I thought that was a strange remark but I said I would.   When I did call the next day I was told he passed away during the night. 

I realized that I had met one of my soul mates, possibly a “Twin Flame” (I’ll talk about that in my next post), but surely I had been closely related, in contact to someone who mentored me and in the end taught me about Death.  

Now I said “one of my soul mates” I do believe that sometimes we will have more than one, like a portion split off into a third entity, and that  it comes around for something very powerful, sometimes as a parent, or sibling or dear friend.   When we go to the other side we will join them as part of that soul group and then after many incarnations as one.

Now my last relationship, we met at my work place, it was really a funny situation, too long to go into here, but as time when by he helped me at my parents’ home (I was living with my mother, dad had died some time ago)  and I regarded ourselves as friends, one day he came into where I work, we planned on having coffee on my break, he started looking around and as I watched him I suddenly had this overwhelming feeling of love towards him.   I mentally shook my head and said “Wait a minute girl, he’s just a friend”.

Later on, several situations happened that I began to question my feelings towards him and then I saw it, that same overpowering look in his eyes the same as my friend who died several years before had, it was pure, overwhelming, powerful and then he said “I love you” and I kissed him, we cried and we’ve been together for over 25 years, oh there have been bumps in the road, but as it’s been said “We are in for the long haul”  we’ve lived, loved, laughed, argued, worked together, cried together, cared for each other, worried about each other, helped each other, and we do get romantic with each other, but it’s not one of those candles and fine wine and soft music romance.

No our romantic dates have been cooking over a camp stove, with the birds singing in the trees, seeing the sun rise, drinking hot camp coffee and breathing in the scent of the trees and at night romanced by the howl of coyotes,  and just looking at the stars.   And then when we’re back in the city remembering that. 

So what is a Soulmate?   Well as the definition says one half of one person, who when together completes the whole, or “My better half”, and more importantly “My Best Friend”.  They are important in our own personal soul and spiritual growth.  When will we meet out soul mate?  That depends upon what contracts we’ve made before we were born.

The book that I mentioned before in my previous post “Journey of Souls” by Michael Newton can help to understand the concept of Soul Mates in far more intimate detail, and I do recommend it for your bookshelf.

How does one know if one has met one’s soul mate?   At first you don’t but if it seems that you can work things out, be equal partners with each other, deal with the ups and downs of one another, only over time do you know if you have met your soul mate.  

And if not well at least you’ve met someone from whom you will learn a life lesson. 

In my next post I will talk about “Twin Flames” allegedly a highly developed form of Soul Mates.

After that I'm going to look into the aspects of the positive and negative aspects of the use of Dolls in spells and rituals. 

Blessings Ms. Q

Spirit Guides Part 1 (of many)

Dear Ms. Q,

Spirit Guides----That is a very big questions. Something that can take a very long post.

So I'm going to do it in sections, which would be best.

And I'm going to start with the last part of your over all Question.

"Can Evil People Have Spirit Guides?" In a word---Yes.

But do they listen to them? No.

Depending upon the development of "evil people" the bulk of them operate on a selfish, self-centered emotional level, that is they do not seek or look outward but inward and not to meditate and connect with their higher selves, but to think thoughts of revenge, greed, destruction, pain, torture, and self pleasure.

A fire bug for example---is a person who starts fires and watches them burn for self pleasure, they get a sense of sexual gratification, they do not care if property is destroyed or people killed, it even increases their gratification. They operate on a purely 'animal type' instinct, their guides are there, trying to make a connection, but it's almost a lost cause. So what a guide will do is cause the person to make a mistake, a simple mistake, such as leaving a clue to help officials track him down, or linger too long at one spot, or be in a crowd and displaying a sort of behavior or interest that is a clue that they might be the person who has caused the situation.

In extreme measures, the spirit guides will take steps to have the fire bug do a mis-step and be caught in their own fire, thus injuring or killing them.

Thieves, rapists, drug dealers, drug users, murderers, suicide bombers, etc. never connect to their spirit guides even though the guides are there waiting for the connection, even though the guides are trying to connect to them but cannot be heard. Evil people like them are mostly operating at the lowest level of soul development.

Once in a while, they--they guides--- can get through, but they are then working with someone who is a more developed soul.

Example: Judge Joe Brown on T.V. (or is it Judge Mathis) I get them confused, I know its the younger one. This Judge, as a teen, was heading to a life of crime, had seen the inside of a jail cell, most certainly would have turned bad and die young, but something happened, and he listened to someone and also his spirit guides connected to him and woke him up and he turned himself around and with a lot of hard work become a lawyer and then a Judge, but he is a higher evolved soul. And that's when the connection works.

But once in a while you'll get a Hitler, who is listening to a certain extent, but their interpretation is always clouded by their ego and even then the guides sometimes have to take steps to guide someone as evil as him because of a greater Karma or life lesson that needs to be taught, that is why until the very end Hitler seemed to almost always avoid assignation, only because it had to be that way for destiny to play itself out.

So evil people do have spirit guides, but they never listen to them, and what they do is they will revolve and change with each incarnation the person takes, to see which one will be come a better fit.

My next post will be about my spirit guides---

Blessings, Ms. Q.

Soul Ages Part 2

Dear Ms. Q,

In my previous answer I said that in my studies and through meditations I said that there were 7 soul ages.

Starting with Infant/Baby,

Toddler/Child,

Teen/Very young Adult,

Adult,

Mature,

Middle Age,

Old/Elder

If you relate these basic ages to years it would break down like this

Infant/Baby---birth to 2 years

Toddler/Child---3 years to 12

Teen/Very Young Adult---13 to 20

Adult ----21 to 35

Mature---35 to 49

Middle Age 50 to 65

Old/Elder 65 plus

And within these 7 ages there are 7 levels of progressive development, which if you watch any person you will see how they act or act out in their development.

7 by the way is a sacred number, we have 7 charkas’ or energy levels, so if we look at the 7 charka levels and compare them to the 7 levels within each soul age it really makes sense, for example the 1 charka is about survival at it’s basic level. With each of the Soul age it starts out at the 1^st level as just surviving or learning to survive as it gets to that soul level---for example at the teen soul age the first level is starting to learn how to survive your teen years---not an easy thing but as you progressively mature it becomes easier but then you hit the Adult Soul Age and you are out in that cold hard world.

So here you are now at the Adult Soul Age and its back to the first level within that Soul Age and how do you survive it.

Now I use 7 Soul Ages, but with the Michael Teachings they use only 5 Soul Ages,

Infant,

Baby,

Young,

Mature

Old

but they also have 7 learning levels within each of their soul ages.

Frankly I feel that their break down of Soul ages is incomplete. Especially when they blur the Infant and Baby level and make the mistake of lumping Young to cover late teen to age 35, with Mature as being from 35 to 65.

Only because I have seen many souls that according to the Michael Teachings they would say is Young and I would classify as Teen.

That is because we are having many Teen souls come back who have died in last conflict (Gulf War) who are confused but are trying to work through it by being pro-active in helping people but are still a bit confused on it, so they have a tendency to allow their thinking to be easily guided by Toddler/Child groups.

The most difficult souls are those from the late level Infant/Baby-1^st level Toddler/Child levels who died in the Vietnam war, they come back with much rage and hostility at not being recognized by our late Child-early Teen levels for the sacrifice that they made.

Many of them that have incarnated start joining gangs and are the ones who are involved with and killed in drive by shootings or gang wars, some of them easily get involved with drugs and O.D. Many of the young deaths that you read and hear about are those “raging” Baby to Toddler levels that exhibit a lot of immaturity and will never make it to old age on this side of the earthly plane.

And there are a lot of them---very scary.

Interestingly enough a number of people who are homosexual are working at the first few levels of the Mature Soul age---if they are asking questions about “Spirituality” they are at that level and are “On Track” in their Soul development.

They will seek out those that are either on the late Middle Age to Elder Level, but they will also not want to become part of a “commune” they want the safety of being taught by someone but not involved with a particular group

This is because as part of their subconscious remembers being “sucked” into a dogmatic, controlling religious environment at the late Baby or early Child of their Soul development and it was not a good experience. Much like those that are living in a theocracy government like Iraq, and Iran. Those countries are at the Infant/Baby stage of development whereas Israel is at the Late Teen/Young Adult level bordering or about to enter the Adult Level.

I’ve always said one does not give a baby matches and expect it to play safely.

There are web sites out there that talk about the Soul Levels according to the Michael Teachings and they are very good, however I do feel that they stress a lot of negative especially in the later aspects of the Soul Age development.

But if nothing else it can give you and idea of the age development of various Souls.

This is a subject that one could go into for months to discuss, because there are also various aspects of each soul, The Teacher, the warrior, the healer, the server, the King or great leader, the artisan, etc. and sometimes, like trying to read “I Ching” coins there is a higher and lower aspect of each soul, which can make for great confusion in just trying to learn it, for example Ms. Q, I am a Server who Teaches which is my higher aspect but I can become a warrior in my serving aspect when it comes to protecting my love ones but that is the lower aspect of the soul identity.

And we can change with each re-birth as we progress through the ages.

The Michael Teachings did finally come up with two more Soul Ages, which are the Transcendental Souls and the Infinite Souls.

These Souls resonate to a very high degree. Unfortunatly there are people who seek these souls and become blinded by false impressions. In the Bible it warns of becoming influenced by Charmatic people who are in the Negative Aspect of the Young Adult and Adult level of Soul Age, by saying “Beware of False Prophets”

These False Prophets can give off an impression of the Transcendental Soul to those at the Infant Child level, case examples are Jim Jones, David Korech of the Branch Davidians, and the Leader formerly known as “Bo” who was the leader of the suicidal “Heaven’s Gate” group.

True Transcendental Souls go beyond their own ego and think of the greater good, we are looking at the Dalai Lama, Gandhi, Pope John XXIII, there are some who do things for a greater good that have not had such great recognition and some who although their teachings are wonderful can fall into a trap if they are not careful, fortunately that is extremely rare.

A True Transcendental Soul will remain amazingly clear, centered and conscious of what they do and how it could be perceived. I’m inclined to put Mother Theresa and Pope John-Paul II in that Category. Both had doubts about their mission and about themselves but focused on the greater good, in the end Pope John-Paul II through his illnesses offered himself up as an example of the suffering of the aged and how we must care for them. He gave himself wholly to Mother Mary, just as Mother Theresa gave herself wholly to Jesus.

The last Soul Age is one we see very rarely but has had a profound effect on human kind.

This is the Infinite Soul who is a manifestation of all that is. And yes, I’m talking about Jesus and Buddha, the Infinite Soul will take on a physical incarnation in the later life of a human body, usually someone who is either at the 7^th level of Old/Elder or at the Transcendental Level and this is done with permission by the owner of that body.

In some cases as with Jesus and Buddha there is pre-preparation for that Infinite Soul to enter---the most classic is of course in the beginning of the New Testament, Mary—an old soul herself is made aware of what is to come, and her physical spouse Joseph also an old soul but at the earlier levels (there for with some doubts) is also made aware of the speicalness of this pregnancy.

The Infinite Soul will only come at times when needed—and so far has come only 3 times---the third is Kwan Yin, a female aspect of the Infinite Soul. Mother Mary Achieved Elder Soul/Transcendental Soul at the highest Level and is part of All That Is and hears all of us when we pray, she may take on a physical aspect at a time when needed. But trust me, she is not going to appear on a potato chip.

The Infinite Soul will come again and Teach that we are to love one another and the Earth and all work together without the religious factions that tear us apart.

Blessings, Ms. Q

Old Souls and at what level~~~

Dear Ms. Q,

"What Soul level are you?"

There are many levels of souls, the major groups as my studies have indicated is like the seven ages of human kind you start out as a baby, to the young child, to the teenager, to the adult in their 20's, then mature age which by logical definition is 35 to 45, middle age between 45 and 60, old age or elder which is 60 plus.

An infant soul is just that, an infant---they have no concept of spirit but only live for the Now, with the child then the soul is becoming aware of things outside themselves but because they are afraid of what is out there prefer to have someone else dictate to them---many fundamentalists are in that area. So are many criminals and psycho paths.

The child soul is still in the now but is beginning to wonder what is around them and question it, they keep asking the "Why" of things. They still prefer to have someone else call the shots, because they are afraid of taking those independent steps and rebelling, sometimes they can become so enamored of a belief that they willingly become suicide bombers, souls at this level are at a dangerous stage willing to die for a cause, much like the Hitler Youth of Nazi Germany. But as they mature within this level the seeds for rebellion against fundamentalists ideas are sown.

The soul at the teen age level think they know everything and that there is nothing, this is our atheists or go into heavy metal music, become Goths all the expressions of angst and yet they think that they know it all but know nothing, not even life. Many of them may take their own lives because they feel there is nothing to live for, this is a very selfish time in a souls development.

The adult at their 20's level souls--- are passionate lovers they are sensing that there is something out there and passionately explore it---sometimes this takes the expression of exposing themselves to danger, like sky diving or rope free rock climbing or doing marathons, they are looking for that high---but this also can lead them down the path of drugs, a dangerous period in a souls development and one in which they could take on a lot of Karma

The mature soul----this is where an awareness comes upon them, they understand that there is a great source of existence, they are not sure how to seek it, but this is where they start to do good deeds, helping others, they seek answers even in religion but know enough to not allow religion to dominate them only to be a source of spiritual understanding and to help with their awareness. This is where the medical professionals come in starting at this level and scientists as well. Also Farmers, Ranchers, forest Rangers, psychic abilities come about at this level.

The middle age soul----They become the volunteers working at a local level or doing fund raisers, many of them go into public safety or public service, or the military feeling that by helping and protecting  their fellow man they are helping the world (teen or adult souls will go into the military as well but only to look for discipline) many take up religious orders and become priests, rabbi's, nuns, monks or take up the contemplative life, many learn to suppress their egos for the greater good. This is where you find Hero's who willingly sacrifice their life to save others.

The elder soul---They are the ones who give of themselves, they may still be dealing with the mundane world or lives, but they feed the hunger, go to poverty stricken countries to help those improve their lives, volunteer in times of disaster, they go beyond the fundraising they will go to the area that needs help, they become religious teachers but suppress their ego and their own opinions to allow the younger souls to learn and develop, they seem to know in advance of what is needed before it is even mentioned, This is where you get your Saints.


And even within these levels of soul development there are graduations with in each level.

I have been told that I am at the beginning of the elder soul level, although I personally feel that I'm at the Middle age level, because I still have a bit of ego which I do work to suppress to help others.

The soul will go through many incarnations to achieve all those levels even knowing that there maybe some "back sliding" they continue to develop even on the spirit side of existence by becoming Guides to other people. All souls need to take on at least one human incarnation so that they can understand the human idea of existence.

Because to live on Earth or another planet is to live in the 3rd dimension, where as when we cross over we go back to living in the fourth dimension which has greater expansion.

Blessings,
Ms. Q

Q: Old soul?

Dear Ms.Q,

 I just read a quick article in the BPI Magazine about the different classes of souls (baby, infant, old, etc.). Can you explain the them in a bit more detail? Which one are you?