Dear Ms. Q,
“I read your post about being Clairvoyant and all that
stuff, but I’m confused. What do you
mean that someone can be an Empath? How
do you know if you’re an Empath?”
Being an Empath or having sensitivity to people, places,
animals can be a good thing and a bad thing if you do not know how to
control this ablitiy. Sometimes it leads to people
having too many animals, having a relationship with a bully or abusive person
because you “feel” you can change them, you can’t say ‘no’ because you don’t
want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Places
and things bother you while to others they think you’re just nuts----well, you’re
not. You are an Empath.
But an Empath also has to be logical and grounded as well,
has to learn to say ‘no’, has to know that there are people you can’t change or
fix, you need to channel your empathic abilities into a constructive direction.
So here is a list to test yourself to see if you are an
Empath:
You feel others’ pain
You sense others’ emotional state and feel it in your body.
You get strong first impressions of people that end up being
spot-on or right on the mark.
You sense if someone is lying (Mothers are very good about
this, so are cops)
You can’t watch the news
Sad movies are overwhelming
You feel physically sick at violence of any kind
You’re hyper-sensitive to noise
You’re hyper sensitive to bright lights
You’re hyper-aware of shifts in surroundings
You have a hard time saying “no” to people
You help so much you’re exhausted (but can’t stop helping)
You feel sick or shaky around certain people
You can’t seem to detach from someone in need, even when it’s
for your best
You constantly attract “broken winged birds” (extremely
needy people) or bullies in relationships
You are more aware of the suffering in the world than others
You have a deep need to make the world a better place.
It is hard for Non-Empaths to see what an Empath is seeing
and to understand it but Empaths need logical and well balanced non-empaths so
that the person who is Empathic is not losing themselves to a lost cause or
situation, because if they are involved in that it can harm them physically,
emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
That is why it is important to say “no”, to network with agencies
who help people and animals in need, and to make your own personal surroundings
as comfortable as possible and to also be aware that not everyone will see,
feel or do things the way you do, and that is where an Empath needs to work
from the logical side of their personality or develop logical reasoning.
An over-board empath becomes what I call a “Tree-hugging
Fluff Bunny” singing Kumbaiya and wearing sandals in freezing weather.
Balance is what is needed,
and I should know because I myself experience much of what is listed
here, and it took me years and the training of my Granny, my Parents and
several mentors to help me develop the safeguards I needed to help me through
life. Not that I have come out of it
unscathed, but with enough experience to know what not to do.
Now most people may feel a number of those things listed but
not all of them, well that still makes you an empath but over time you’ve
developed on your own some spiritual tricks to help protect yourself which is
good.
Now there are things that you as an Empath or spiritual
person can do, as a matter of fact even a normal person who is not that much of
an Empath should do as well, to achieve balance and harmony in their life.
Tiffany Stiles came up with this list and I’ve seen it all
over the internet and I’m posting it here with a few addition comments of my
own in ( ).
They are you need to:
Set Boundaries
(Extremely important---don’ let anyone bulldoze you)
Balance and clear your throat chakra (important to be heard,
do it frequently)
When you are upset, let your voice be heard. (If you don’t speak up folks will run over
you or take you for
granted)
When you need help ask for it. (you don’t have to do it all by yourself)
Steer clear of gossip
and drama. (if someone brings drama
into your house, kick them out and tell them that you don’t need that in your
life, if someone starts to gossip ask them to stop unless they were directly
there to see if happen, if not then don’t tell lies) You have no idea how important this is.
Do not watch the news.
(The only way news sells is if it’s negative, however if it’s something
that impacts your commute, like a transit strike, well you do need to be
informed, there are people who are news junkies, and that can be poisonous to
one’s mental health)
Steer clear of narcissistic personalities. They feed off of Empaths. (they are also
known as psychic vampires---see also steering clear of gossip and drama---you
will know when you’re near a psychic vampire because you feel drained all day
after encountering them)
Ground your energy with Earth Daily.
Meditate. (this is
very helpful and relieves stress, you
can also do this to check in with your chakra’s to make sure they are in
balance)
Be in Nature. ( a
walk in a park or a public garden is always reviving, if you are afraid of
going alone have a good and understand friend go with you, have a mini-picnic
if you like, soak up a little Vitamin D
for 20 minutes from the Sun---but don’t get a sun burn)
Spend 1 hour alone to recharge your batteries. (make that an
absolute rule, set it for the same time day or evening, if you have kids, get a
friend to baby sit them for that hour---when I was working I had a long commute
to work, so I would car pool with friends but they would leave an hour earlier
to go home, so I took the bus, because I got off work 30 minutes later, it took
an hour to get home but that hour was my alone time, I would listen to classical music on my
portable transistor radio with an ear
bud, and the station I listened to always had music to commute home by, it
worked for me)
Water is the element that will calm an Empath’s emotions, a
sea salt bath will clear negative energy as well as ocean air and water. ( I used to go camping every year with my
folk and there was this wonder place that had a river running by and all the
ions from that river was refreshing, I’ve
always found being near moving water to help me feel great, I’m fortunate that I live not too far from an
ocean beach, so I get either one of my children or my niece to drive me to it,
and I’ll sit in my folding chair enjoying the waves, the sea gulls and the
fresh air)
Another thing is to create a room of your own, either your
bedroom or porch or finish off a basement area so that it is your space
decorate it the way you want.
My nephew
set up in my sitting room (it’s an odd room that no one has an idea what its
used for it’s a bit too small for a bed room, so I keep my books and papers
there and do my bills) he set up an
aquarium and asked me what type of fish did I want in it and I said “Goldfish” so we went to this place and I picked out my
fish, he maintains the aquarium and I enjoy the meditative aspects of the fish
swimming around, while my stereo plays classical music. But you have to let others know that is YOUR
room, no others can invade it or put their stuff in it, it is to help balance
you.
That is at least one idea, but you now know for those of you
who are sensitive what it is all about and what you can do about it.
Bright Blessings,
Ms. Q
Ms. Q my sincerest thank you for this clear explanation and all your time writing these informative pieces.
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcome, I'm glad you enjoy them.
DeleteBright Blessings,
Ms. Q