WHY DOESN’T MY LOVE SPELL WORK??!!

Hello Everyone,

For the past several months I’ve been getting questions from people who have performed “love type” spells they do the oils, the write out the petitions, they do the chants and prayers, they burn the candles, they note how the candles work and think something should happen----BUT----they wonder why doesn’t the target of their personal interest show any interest in them.

For a good reason----Bottom line --- it wasn’t meant to happen.

I know that sounds cruel, I know that sounds like “love spells don’t work” but I have to say that love spells do work----when the love is mutual but not activated.   

Yes you heard (or read) me correctly the love has to be mutual BUT it is Not activated.  It’s there quiescent, but it hasn’t been awaken.

Now I’ve encountered several types of scenario’s in love workings and in all my years of doing the work, as I’ve said before I’ve been there---I’ve done that---and I’ve bought the T-shirt (many times over).   So I know what I’m talking about, I was young once, I was [what I thought] in love [many times] only to be disappointed, dis-heartened, broken hearted, and just plain feeling bad, miserable, despondent and [in a few cases] angry.

And it is hard on a young person, well on any person of any age to be disappointed in love, because we always want someone to be our one and only, to be with us forever----even Zha Zha Gabor once said she was a great housekeeper----she always kept the house after the divorce.

Now I did a post about why Reconciliation spells don’t work well it’s true for specifically targeted love spells as well.

Now for specifically targeted love spells why don’t they work?  The two most common reasons a spell "did not work", regardless of the situation is:

 1 --- The spell is actually working, just not in the way you had hoped

 2---It is not in your best interests to have what you are asking for.

And usually that is the strongest and most important reason why it didn’t work because it is ethically wrong to use a love spell to target a specific person. It's wrong because it interferes with the free will of the person you are attempting to put the spell on and you have to be careful because it will backfire on you.

Sometimes what one thinks is love is merely a “crush” and sometimes “crushes” can result in unwanted pregnancies  or the giving of money only for it to never be returned so you have to be careful about that, because you can be used.

Love work is one of the hardest to get results on and the answer as to why is obvious if you seriously think about it.   You are trying to get a person to feel, think or act in a way they are not inclined to work, and this is much harder than shifting your odds of luck, or fighting a magical curse with a magical cleansing.   

People who want someone to fall in love with them, to become interested in them forget that people have free will, and trying to change that isn't easy, there is a vast amount of energy and time put out to do this and it doesn’t happen like in the movies.   

Another thing to remember is that a lot of times Love Spells do not work because they would harm someone.  Think of it like “The Force” that is talked about in “Star Wars” you have to remember every thought and action has a ripple effect that goes far beyond its original intentions.

IF it is meant to happen it may be that your spell has to wait until the timing is right for many different people involved. You may think that your spell is just between you and the new lover you’d like to attract, but it could also be between the person your lover is with today, the emotional needs of your children, the cute person you’re meant to have a fling with tomorrow.

We don’t know all the stakes involved in any spell that we cast, we always have to remember that it does not harm anyone else.

If the result of your spell is delayed or is not happening, it could be that the Universe is taking its time to assess everything so that it doesn’t hurt anyone in the processes, if you force the issue then you will be dealing with psychic payback and you won’t like it.

That is why you have to always remember that there are other things, situations and people involved when you do a love spell.

Denise Alvarado gave a list of 10 reasons why Love Spells lots of times don’t work  and I’m going to  post an abbreviated version of it here.   The comments within these brackets (  )  are mine.

1. You have unrealistic expectations……There needs to be a strong connection to the person to begin with, and a basis from which love can be nurtured and sparked. Furthermore, love spells do not work overnight. Magick is often a process that involves removing obstacles and clearing unwanted influences, and realigning and maneuvering energies to affect change for the best possible result.   (if a deep connection is not there, it’s not there)

2. Magick is not guaranteed. Just as prayers to the creator may go seemingly unanswered, there may be a reason that a spell does not work. It may be that the Universe has different plans for you. This reason is very hard for some people to accept.    (this one is hard for anyone in love with someone or you have a “crush” or deep interest in that someone,  but that someone is not in love with you, that makes it hard for you to understand)

3. You are taking shortcuts.    (using the wrong oils, doing it at the wrong time etc.)

4. You doubt the power of magick and you do not “believe” in your own personal power.

5. You are stalking and/or harassing your desired mate… To do so will reverse any spell performed on your behalf ( or by you). You need to create and allow space for the correct energies to align and work in your favor.

6. You are being scammed. Bar none, this is the most common reason love spells do not work. An authentic practitioner will have a conversation with you about your situation and assess your expectations and the likelihood of success. They will give you an honest appraisal of your request and will not take your money if there is little chance of the spell working.   (That is why doing a divination before doing the spell is important to know if it will be successful)

7. You do not provide complete and accurate information to the spellcaster (or you yourself do not have all the accurate information about that person’s personal situation ie are they married, engaged, interested in someone else)

8. You are obsessing over your love spell or Voodoo love spell. Obsession is fueled by desperation. These feelings attract negativity and will weaken any spell being performed.

9. You fail to address any underlying obstacles or issues.  (Remember your target may not be into you)

10. You talk about the spellwork to others. (Meaning to those who are not into doing magic or might be practitioners but don’t reveal it)

11. (This one is my reason) The targeted person has their own protections set up either consciously or unconsciously or their guardian spirits are protecting them so they can follow the life path that is set before them.

I’ve mentioned that years ago a friend of mine was obsessed with this guy she really wanted him to love her, now he knew her, had seen her around but he didn’t talk to her much, well she did a love spell and oh yeah he got attracted to her after he dropped his latest girlfriend, but after she’d been with him for a couple of months she wanted out of the relationship, he was abusive, controlling, he was making her life miserable.

We needed Granny to help her, Granny was pissed about it, I mean think of that scene in the first Disney Fantasia film where Mikey Mouse loses control over the broom and nearly drowns in the ‘Sorcerer’s Apprentice’ piece.  It was like that in a way.   But Granny got it done (with a little assistance from me and my friend) to get her out of her situation.

I had an acquaintance of mine wanting to reconcile with an old boyfriend so she was doing love spells to re-kindle his interest, but they didn’t seem to work, he still continued dating this other woman,  I had to persuade her that the Devine Presence didn’t want her to have him back, it was hard on her until 3 months later,  we read in the newspaper that he had been killed by a former girlfriend that he had dated over a year before and had been stalking him,  the woman also attempted to kill the girl he was dating.   My acquaintance realized it could have been her that could have been hurt.

I myself also made the same mistake, twice, each time I was able to have the fella attracted to me, the first one I married---Big Mistake,  my marriage was miserable, but I was determined to work on it, until I caught him in bed with another woman,  it’s a good thing I used a broom to chase them out of the apartment---they were buck-ass naked when they ran out,  because in the back of my mind something kept saying he was not worth going to jail for.    

 The police was understanding but they said I couldn’t keep them from getting their clothes, the woman kept apologizing to me saying she didn’t know he was married.    I said “Well you know now!”   The next day I demanded a divorce and got it.

The 2^nd time I didn’t marry the guy I was only engaged but he cheated as well, but by that time I could tell if we got married it would be a disaster so I was wondering how to break it off with him,  but I caught him too,  he said I could keep the engagement ring,  and he also paid me $5,000 so I wouldn’t go to the church and out him to the congregation.    I used that money to help paint my parents’ house, they were thinking of getting a loan but I saved them the money.

By this time I gave up on doing love spells they backfired on me and I was tired of that kind of pain,  I focused on my regular job, learning more of the work, helping friends and family and taking care of my Mom after my Dad passed away.

Eventually my Mom became very ill, and she was slowly going into a decline, by this time most of my family was scattered and spread out, the elders that I grew up with were gone, I felt very alone, and I knew when she passed away I’d be left alone.   I was so wrapped up in my fear of being alone I couldn’t see anything in front of me for the future,  I was in deep emotional pain, I didn’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.

When Mom was asleep I did a Love spell, but I made it general I asked the Divine Presence that I wanted a good man in my life, I listed the qualities I wanted and what I didn’t want as well.   I said “If there is a fellow about my age, who can be a friend, a companion, a lover, honest and loyal, if he’s out there, send him my way, because I don’t want to be alone and afraid.”

Later that night I had a dream, it was of three tarot cards, first the high priestess, then the magician, then the lovers,  I had that same dream three nights in a row.   I wrote the dream down in my journal.  I figured the high priestess was me, the lovers was obvious,  3 cards over 3 nights so the number 3 was important, it could mean 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, 3 o’clock, 3 was important, but who the heck was the magician I couldn’t figure out why that card, I expected a court card.

I got my answer 3 days later at work,  I was at the desk and this gentleman came in and asked if we had any books on Houdini I showed him the area, he was happy and I went back to the desk, then after a little bit I was taking care of a mother whose child would not stop crying, the gentleman who had asked about the Houdini books, made a large purple wooden thimble appear magically and then disappear and re-appear to the delight of the child, and then he made a balloon animal for the child, while the child was distracted I finished helping the mother who was relieved that her child was quiet.

When they left I turned to the man and said “That was pretty good mis-direction” and he said “You think so?  That’s nice, I do magic professionally alongside my regular job,  Hey when do you get a break I’ll buy you a cup of coffee and we can sit outside and talk.”

Yes he had a regular full time job but he also performed at birthday parties, weddings, and special events and had a nice little show.   He helped me during the final days of my Mom’s illness and helped me keep my sanity.   And we’ve been together ever since.

So yes love spells do work if done correctly.  There are ethics involved in casting a love spell,  if the person  you are casting on is looking for love as well and you have a general connection, but just hasn't noticed you in a romantic way,  if you plan on being a wonderful partner for this person, you would be giving that person the gift of love if you cast a spell that would make them want to look in your direction and want to give you some extra time and focus in order to get to know you.  

But it helps if you truly love the person and that person is available and looking too, but you need to be careful because Love spells can have all sorts of strange effects.  It can work on you instead of the other person and make you desire them even more than you already do, so that you become obsessed and that would be unhealthy. 

If you want to do a love spell then try a spell for attracting love to you in general, without targeting a specific person. If you and a person you are interested in are meant to be together then it will work out. If not, then perhaps the spell will bring you to someone more suited for you.

It’s far healthier and more reasonable and it sets things up with the Universe, the Divine Presence to work things out better for you,  maybe you won’t met them at your work place, maybe you’ll go back to college or take up a hobby and meet them in class or at an event, where you are introduced.   

By having it open like that you won’t be hurt, and either that person will be with you for a day, a season, a year or forever, but you’ll know how it will work out and not have the pain of love unrequited.

In my next post on Love Spells, I’m going to do a few caveats on how some of them and to what degree they can work but you have to remember it is far better to do a general love spell to bring the right love to you, than it is to coheres someone to love you.   In my next post I’ll explain about compelling or force love spells.

Bright Blessings,

Ms. Q

Why do some spells or candle rituals don't work?~~~

 Dear Ms. Q,

“I did a spell for a job but nothing happened, why?”  “I did a candle spell to get my ex-boyfriend back but he’s still with that other woman, why?”   “I did a spell to find the right man but instead I found a dog, why?”

That last one did specifically happened but it turned out to be a good thing.

O.K. everyone, people do spells for many reasons, but they come down to  4  basic subjects,  Love,  Prosperity, Protection, Revenge and within those basic subjects are a lot of sub headings, for example in Prosperity we have Job, Money, gambling just to name a few.

But people do a spell or candle ritual and then say “it didn’t work” or “It didn’t come out the way I wanted it to”   followed by “Why?  What did I do wrong?”

Let me illustrate one example and this is because I had warned the person they need to be specific, this older woman wanted to do a candle spell to find the right companion for her, someone to love her and only her, to be faithful and kind and protective.    I told her she should be more specific because the Universe will send to you what It feels you need, or not need.

 Well she did the spell her way, wrote out her petition her way and what happened is this funny looking, lovable stray dog came into her life.    Several years ago was when she did the spell and nothing happened and she rightfully came to me and complained and I said “Give it time”.

A week later she was in an area that suffered a devastating forest fire, and burned out a number of homes, she was helping out a friend of hers,  driving her friend who had a home in that area back to it after being allowed to enter, driving along the twisty road they came across a dog that was exhausted, singed, limping and was about to collapse,  she stopped her car and swept the dog up into her car, gave it some water and as it fell asleep in the back seat they drove to her friend’s home which by a miracle was spared from the flames.   

But now she had this stray dog, she took responsibility for it, had it checked out by a vet, posted found signs, but no one claimed the dog, the dog stayed by her side devotedly and she named it Smokey.     And the dog has been faithful, kind, protective and very, very loving.    She told me “I asked for a man, I got a dog, what did I do wrong with my spell”  I read her petition and she used the word ‘companion’  not man, so the Universe sent her exactly what she needed, a companion that met those qualifications.

But all was not lost, Smoky has introduced her to several gentlemen friends and she has been having a wonderful time of it, but as she told me “Smoky is my barometer, if he doesn’t like a person then there is something wrong and if my gentlemen friends don’t like my dog or can’t figure out a way to include my dog on a date (with a few exceptions) then they are not in my life”----as I said the Universe sent to her exactly what she needed.

So many people wonder why doesn’t a spell work?  You have to remember that when doing candle magick/spells/rituals it creates an opening for the Devine Presence be it God/Goddess/ Orisha/ Jesus/or Mother Mary in to let them make the decision for you.  Of course it does help to set a time limit on the magick.  Give it a certain amount of time to see any results if nothing happens, then do it again and again wait.   Sometimes doing a spell one time does not necessarily make it happen, it takes time to build up the energies to see it through.

My mother and grandmother were very big on doing 54 day Novena’s  27 days to petition the saint or Jesus or Mother Mary and 27 days to thank them, even if nothing appears to have happened but as my Grandmother was fond of saying “Give it time,  just as you have to give bread dough time to rise”. 

 

But most importantly remember that sometimes you might not get your wish, and it’s not because you failed in doing the magick, but because it was not in the cards or in your destiny for you.   It’s like asking to be wealthy but maybe in this lifetime you are not meant to be super rich, but just comfortable or that you do need to struggle to learn a Karmic lesson.

That is why giving the spell time to work helps you understand what maybe happening.   Also another thing as my Granny was fond of saying “God helps those who help themselves”  so you can do a spell to get a job, BUT you are the one to update your resume, look for job openings on all those various web sites, submit those applications, prepare yourself for the interview, the spell helps you focus that energy to “Get ‘er dun!”

In doing spells or candle magick we also need to know why spells fail.  Granny told me that there are four reasons a spell, any kind of spell, fails.

1.        You did it wrong:   This is very common for beginners  and it falls into one of several reasons,  You didn’t use the right ingredients, didn't pray with enough conviction,  you couldn’t work up enough energy,  or you approached it wrong to solve the problem, and most often it might not have been the right spell.

  

2.        You’re undoing your own magic:   This is the most common reason why the spell hasn’t work.  The reasons behind this is you told others about the magic you are doing, or you doubted your own magickal power, or you obsessed over the outcome that you desired but by doing that you were diverting energy away from the spell and focusing it instead on your tension and stress, or you are subconsciously thinking you don't want the very thing you are doing spell work for (for that you may need to meditate on), or you may have subconscious thoughts that work against your desires.     

Another common thought in undoing your magic especially candle magick is your energy flow keeps getting interrupted, this because you could be sharing space with another family member or roommates that don’t understand or disprove what you’re doing so lack of privacy can undo your magickal workings, or you blow the candle out instead of snuffing it out, or you don’t complete the spell or ritual in its proper entirety. 

3.       You aren't meant to have it:    This is possible depending upon the “blue print” or karmic path your soul needs to follow.  So you are asking for something that is just not in your destiny to have in this life time.  Another reason is Karmic justice where you are using magic to get something that is not right in God or the Divine Presences eye, and possibly the Divine Presence is seeing that  you are working against your best interests, so the answer is “no”.

  

And the Least Common yet the first idea that people jump to:

4.        Someone is working against you:    A person thinks that someone is binding your spells or actions by magic, working to undo your spell work, casting hexes against you, crossing you, or tripping your magic up in some way,   People are more than willing to peg their failures on someone else, when they should be looking at their self or personal situation.

Now that is not to say that if you know the other person does do magic that they may be doing things against you but this is where one needs to see if the action against this person is needed or was it caused by rumors and falsehoods or were you not meant to have it happen.

To put it bluntly it won’t matter how much magic you do if your own thoughts are "I'm not worthy, I don't deserve this, I'm not good enough" if you think that then you will never have lasting results. This is the most common situation in everything from love spells, or reconciliation spells,  or job spells. If you don't think you're worth having that in your life, your soul or subconscious self  will do everything in its power to see that you don't get it and that includes unraveling your own magic.  What some people don’t realize is that subconsciously they sabotage themselves.

I had recently several ladies who are trying to get their boyfriends back, for some reason or another they (the boyfriend) have gone off with someone else, and these ladies have tried spell work to bring them back,  this is where divination can be important.   If a spell doesn’t work, doing divination can give an idea what to do next, in one case the person is unable to properly do the spell, which is one reason why it’s not working, but in both cases there is a secondary reason, and that is both these ladies need to get their own personal lives together and focus on themselves and less on getting their boyfriend back.

That is what the Devine Presence is saying to them, they need to be strong independent women, capable of taking care of themselves and seeing their wandering men for what they really are.   It’s a hard realization to swallow but very true.    Now it is possible that when they get their lives back together they can decide if they want to do the spell work to get their boyfriends back, but if so it would be for a totally different reason and not the one they originally envisioned.

The most frequent spell that is cast is the LOVE SPELL and that is the one that can bring about the greatest disappointment and/or harm.   Once put into motion, a Love Spells energy is directed to the focus of your desires BUT WITHIN REASON.   For example I really like Jensen Ankles who plays Dean Winchester on the T.V. Program “Supernatural” (Hey! I maybe old but the pilot light is not dead)  but I know it will be futile if not darn silly to cast a love spell on him.   But some years ago when I thought I was going to be growing old and alone I did do a spell for someone to come into my life, and I was specific in what qualities I wanted and also said a male companion, but I left it open as to who it was going to be---well it worked for me, I had a dream I wrote the symbols and signs down in my Dream Journal, and in 3 weeks my future husband walked into my life.

But here’s the flip side, if a Love Spell is cast to return a Lover that will ultimately bring a person great harm or make their life worse, the Love Spell Will fail.  This is a top reason why Spells Fail or why Spells do not work as desired.   Because the Devine Presence has something more important in mind and that is what is needed to bring in harmony and balance into your life.

But some people are stubborn they want that person, that event, that justice in their life and what they will do is FORCE that spell to work.    The sad fact is Spells CAN be forced to manifest but you really do not want that.  IF a person is selfish enough to do this, that person who casts the spell will suffer immensely.  There is a Law of checks and balances the Universe has in place and it is there for a reason. But the sad fact is many spells CAN be literally FORCED to manifest.

I mentioned this in another post.  Many years ago a girl friend of mine was deeply infatuated with a guy that was bad news, and she was going to do a love spell to bring him to her, I knew she could do it and I did everything I could to persuade her to not go through with the spell, but she did it anyway, oh yeah he fell in love with her---and controlled her and beat her, and called her horrible names, and made it difficult for her to see her family and friends, she finally got word to me and on a pretext I was able to get her out of the house and to my Grandmother’s place, we pleaded with Granny for help and she did, we had to hide my friend for several weeks but then he left and turned his attentions to someone else and my friend was free.    This is a perfect reason why spells fail to work and why spells do not produce results or not the way one wants them to because they were forced into manifestation.

Sometimes a spell fails because you need growth ANY type of growth, in which some sort sacrifice MUST be made or endured.    To get a degree you have to endure long hours of study and homework.   To lose weight and get in physical shape we must endure giving up our favorite foods and train our bodies using exercises that are exhausting and painful. The bottom line is ALL growth, physical, mental AND spiritual is the result of effort, endurance and pain. You may not realize it but your pain and sacrifice is making you GROW. Ask yourself, "How did this change me for the better?" You’d be surprised by seeing the results 6 months from now, a year from now, 5 years from now.

The bottom line is YOUR happiness and your life's harmony. Of course, this may seem wrong or even unfair at this point in time but you would be surprised how a spell’s failure has made you MUCH STRONGER and WISER.

So what do you do if you want it to work~~~~

If you want it to work, requires several things  

1.       Ensure that all the materials needed for  casting a spell any kind of spell are in place. Get all the things that you’ll need (candles, herbs, incense, crystals, perfumes, etc.) and work within the correct lunar cycles. Concentrat your time and mental energy to the spell and you won’t get disappointed.

2.       Make sure that you are doing the right spell for the right situation and make sure you have all the right ingredients and that you do it properly right up to the disposal of spell workings.

3.       Make sure you are in the right lunar cycle.

4.       Be in the right frame of mind to do it, you are worthy of it, you have the privacy to do it, and that you can do it safely (especially with candle magick)

5.       Remember if it isn't in your destiny to have something you won't ever get it. If it isn't just in the eyes of God, it won't ever manifest. Learn to pray, meditate or get guidance from your spirits/ancestors to learn how to be divinely guided to make the best actions in life and walk in harmony with your destiny. If this is the reason why your spell work isn't happening, then it's time to start getting over it.   (This was recommend by Dr. E.)

6.       If you suspect someone is working against you get a reading on that because a reading will clearly indicate where it is coming from and how to handle the situation.  

Dr. E has said that “Sometimes you only need to do a series of Uncrossing Baths, sometimes it’s a Reversal Spell, other times it’s just a Protection spell. On rare occasions you need to get really serious and cut through binding spells that were put on someone, and then bind the person working against you in retaliation. Other times you need to curse that person to the grave! It really just depends on the power of the work they are doing and the approach they are taking. Usually it involves

1) Cleansing/Uncrossing, 2) Protection, 3) Reflecting or Retaliation work, 4) Binding or Cursing in that order. Don't jump right into cursing because it might not be just in the eyes of God in which case you'll be in a world of hurt.”

Set a Deadline for the spell to work-----

Setting a deadline is a good idea for any goal as well as for your own peace of mind and to remain in love with your own self.  Don’t torture yourself for what you can’t get be it a job, a man or a particular place to live there are plenty of jobs, men, places etc. in this world and you’d be surprised at finding a better option after you've moved on from your original goal.

So how long a Deadline, it depends usually anywhere from a few days to a couple of weeks. In many traditions, the general rule of thumb is that if you haven't seen something begin to manifest within four weeks or one lunar cycle (ie New Moon to New Moon or Full Moon to Full Moon) -- then you may need to revisit your working.

In other traditions, especially in Folk Magick, a spell is designed to be worked over a specific period of time (a seven-day candle spell, for instance), results should appear within a designated amount of time after the working is completed.   If not then again revisit what you’re working with.   I’ve found that after 3 times it’s not working then there is a reason for it so a review is important or the fact that the Universe is saying you’re not meant to have it for some reason.

But you need to keep in mind that sometimes you get results that aren't what you were expecting, (remember my friend getting a dog instead of a boyfriend)  in that case, evaluating the method you used to do the spell in the first place will be important. That doesn't necessarily mean the spell didn't work, it means that your wording was either too vague, or too specific.   Remember Hermione in the Harry Potter movies where she gathered hair for a disguise spell and hers turned her into a cat, which is where being careful is important.

It’s a  good idea is to keep a magical journal it can be in a cheap binder, to record the spell, what you used, the time and day and position of the moon etc.  record what you did, when you did it, what the circumstances were, etc. Jot down everything that happens, so that you can look back later and see if it has begun to manifest and how long it took to manifest, or if it has manifested differently or not at all,

Master Samuel Taylor said “Clients ask us often why Spells fail for certain reasons and the truth is there is a PURPOSE for why some spells fail.  The Laws of the Universe are there and in place for our protection.  Not all Spell Castings are meant to manifest.  It is always best to not force any casting.  The Universe knows what it is doing!"

And one other thing, Do Not be Afraid to move on if what you want does not manifest, there are better and brighter things out there for you, your options are wide open and many.

Blessings,

Ms. Q