WHY DOESN’T MY LOVE SPELL WORK??!!

Hello Everyone,

For the past several months I’ve been getting questions from people who have performed “love type” spells they do the oils, the write out the petitions, they do the chants and prayers, they burn the candles, they note how the candles work and think something should happen----BUT----they wonder why doesn’t the target of their personal interest show any interest in them.

For a good reason----Bottom line --- it wasn’t meant to happen.

I know that sounds cruel, I know that sounds like “love spells don’t work” but I have to say that love spells do work----when the love is mutual but not activated.   

Yes you heard (or read) me correctly the love has to be mutual BUT it is Not activated.  It’s there quiescent, but it hasn’t been awaken.

Now I’ve encountered several types of scenario’s in love workings and in all my years of doing the work, as I’ve said before I’ve been there---I’ve done that---and I’ve bought the T-shirt (many times over).   So I know what I’m talking about, I was young once, I was [what I thought] in love [many times] only to be disappointed, dis-heartened, broken hearted, and just plain feeling bad, miserable, despondent and [in a few cases] angry.

And it is hard on a young person, well on any person of any age to be disappointed in love, because we always want someone to be our one and only, to be with us forever----even Zha Zha Gabor once said she was a great housekeeper----she always kept the house after the divorce.

Now I did a post about why Reconciliation spells don’t work well it’s true for specifically targeted love spells as well.

Now for specifically targeted love spells why don’t they work?  The two most common reasons a spell "did not work", regardless of the situation is:

 1 --- The spell is actually working, just not in the way you had hoped

 2---It is not in your best interests to have what you are asking for.

And usually that is the strongest and most important reason why it didn’t work because it is ethically wrong to use a love spell to target a specific person. It's wrong because it interferes with the free will of the person you are attempting to put the spell on and you have to be careful because it will backfire on you.

Sometimes what one thinks is love is merely a “crush” and sometimes “crushes” can result in unwanted pregnancies  or the giving of money only for it to never be returned so you have to be careful about that, because you can be used.

Love work is one of the hardest to get results on and the answer as to why is obvious if you seriously think about it.   You are trying to get a person to feel, think or act in a way they are not inclined to work, and this is much harder than shifting your odds of luck, or fighting a magical curse with a magical cleansing.   

People who want someone to fall in love with them, to become interested in them forget that people have free will, and trying to change that isn't easy, there is a vast amount of energy and time put out to do this and it doesn’t happen like in the movies.   

Another thing to remember is that a lot of times Love Spells do not work because they would harm someone.  Think of it like “The Force” that is talked about in “Star Wars” you have to remember every thought and action has a ripple effect that goes far beyond its original intentions.

IF it is meant to happen it may be that your spell has to wait until the timing is right for many different people involved. You may think that your spell is just between you and the new lover you’d like to attract, but it could also be between the person your lover is with today, the emotional needs of your children, the cute person you’re meant to have a fling with tomorrow.

We don’t know all the stakes involved in any spell that we cast, we always have to remember that it does not harm anyone else.

If the result of your spell is delayed or is not happening, it could be that the Universe is taking its time to assess everything so that it doesn’t hurt anyone in the processes, if you force the issue then you will be dealing with psychic payback and you won’t like it.

That is why you have to always remember that there are other things, situations and people involved when you do a love spell.

Denise Alvarado gave a list of 10 reasons why Love Spells lots of times don’t work  and I’m going to  post an abbreviated version of it here.   The comments within these brackets (  )  are mine.

1. You have unrealistic expectations……There needs to be a strong connection to the person to begin with, and a basis from which love can be nurtured and sparked. Furthermore, love spells do not work overnight. Magick is often a process that involves removing obstacles and clearing unwanted influences, and realigning and maneuvering energies to affect change for the best possible result.   (if a deep connection is not there, it’s not there)

2. Magick is not guaranteed. Just as prayers to the creator may go seemingly unanswered, there may be a reason that a spell does not work. It may be that the Universe has different plans for you. This reason is very hard for some people to accept.    (this one is hard for anyone in love with someone or you have a “crush” or deep interest in that someone,  but that someone is not in love with you, that makes it hard for you to understand)

3. You are taking shortcuts.    (using the wrong oils, doing it at the wrong time etc.)

4. You doubt the power of magick and you do not “believe” in your own personal power.

5. You are stalking and/or harassing your desired mate… To do so will reverse any spell performed on your behalf ( or by you). You need to create and allow space for the correct energies to align and work in your favor.

6. You are being scammed. Bar none, this is the most common reason love spells do not work. An authentic practitioner will have a conversation with you about your situation and assess your expectations and the likelihood of success. They will give you an honest appraisal of your request and will not take your money if there is little chance of the spell working.   (That is why doing a divination before doing the spell is important to know if it will be successful)

7. You do not provide complete and accurate information to the spellcaster (or you yourself do not have all the accurate information about that person’s personal situation ie are they married, engaged, interested in someone else)

8. You are obsessing over your love spell or Voodoo love spell. Obsession is fueled by desperation. These feelings attract negativity and will weaken any spell being performed.

9. You fail to address any underlying obstacles or issues.  (Remember your target may not be into you)

10. You talk about the spellwork to others. (Meaning to those who are not into doing magic or might be practitioners but don’t reveal it)

11. (This one is my reason) The targeted person has their own protections set up either consciously or unconsciously or their guardian spirits are protecting them so they can follow the life path that is set before them.

I’ve mentioned that years ago a friend of mine was obsessed with this guy she really wanted him to love her, now he knew her, had seen her around but he didn’t talk to her much, well she did a love spell and oh yeah he got attracted to her after he dropped his latest girlfriend, but after she’d been with him for a couple of months she wanted out of the relationship, he was abusive, controlling, he was making her life miserable.

We needed Granny to help her, Granny was pissed about it, I mean think of that scene in the first Disney Fantasia film where Mikey Mouse loses control over the broom and nearly drowns in the ‘Sorcerer’s Apprentice’ piece.  It was like that in a way.   But Granny got it done (with a little assistance from me and my friend) to get her out of her situation.

I had an acquaintance of mine wanting to reconcile with an old boyfriend so she was doing love spells to re-kindle his interest, but they didn’t seem to work, he still continued dating this other woman,  I had to persuade her that the Devine Presence didn’t want her to have him back, it was hard on her until 3 months later,  we read in the newspaper that he had been killed by a former girlfriend that he had dated over a year before and had been stalking him,  the woman also attempted to kill the girl he was dating.   My acquaintance realized it could have been her that could have been hurt.

I myself also made the same mistake, twice, each time I was able to have the fella attracted to me, the first one I married---Big Mistake,  my marriage was miserable, but I was determined to work on it, until I caught him in bed with another woman,  it’s a good thing I used a broom to chase them out of the apartment---they were buck-ass naked when they ran out,  because in the back of my mind something kept saying he was not worth going to jail for.    

 The police was understanding but they said I couldn’t keep them from getting their clothes, the woman kept apologizing to me saying she didn’t know he was married.    I said “Well you know now!”   The next day I demanded a divorce and got it.

The 2^nd time I didn’t marry the guy I was only engaged but he cheated as well, but by that time I could tell if we got married it would be a disaster so I was wondering how to break it off with him,  but I caught him too,  he said I could keep the engagement ring,  and he also paid me $5,000 so I wouldn’t go to the church and out him to the congregation.    I used that money to help paint my parents’ house, they were thinking of getting a loan but I saved them the money.

By this time I gave up on doing love spells they backfired on me and I was tired of that kind of pain,  I focused on my regular job, learning more of the work, helping friends and family and taking care of my Mom after my Dad passed away.

Eventually my Mom became very ill, and she was slowly going into a decline, by this time most of my family was scattered and spread out, the elders that I grew up with were gone, I felt very alone, and I knew when she passed away I’d be left alone.   I was so wrapped up in my fear of being alone I couldn’t see anything in front of me for the future,  I was in deep emotional pain, I didn’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.

When Mom was asleep I did a Love spell, but I made it general I asked the Divine Presence that I wanted a good man in my life, I listed the qualities I wanted and what I didn’t want as well.   I said “If there is a fellow about my age, who can be a friend, a companion, a lover, honest and loyal, if he’s out there, send him my way, because I don’t want to be alone and afraid.”

Later that night I had a dream, it was of three tarot cards, first the high priestess, then the magician, then the lovers,  I had that same dream three nights in a row.   I wrote the dream down in my journal.  I figured the high priestess was me, the lovers was obvious,  3 cards over 3 nights so the number 3 was important, it could mean 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, 3 o’clock, 3 was important, but who the heck was the magician I couldn’t figure out why that card, I expected a court card.

I got my answer 3 days later at work,  I was at the desk and this gentleman came in and asked if we had any books on Houdini I showed him the area, he was happy and I went back to the desk, then after a little bit I was taking care of a mother whose child would not stop crying, the gentleman who had asked about the Houdini books, made a large purple wooden thimble appear magically and then disappear and re-appear to the delight of the child, and then he made a balloon animal for the child, while the child was distracted I finished helping the mother who was relieved that her child was quiet.

When they left I turned to the man and said “That was pretty good mis-direction” and he said “You think so?  That’s nice, I do magic professionally alongside my regular job,  Hey when do you get a break I’ll buy you a cup of coffee and we can sit outside and talk.”

Yes he had a regular full time job but he also performed at birthday parties, weddings, and special events and had a nice little show.   He helped me during the final days of my Mom’s illness and helped me keep my sanity.   And we’ve been together ever since.

So yes love spells do work if done correctly.  There are ethics involved in casting a love spell,  if the person  you are casting on is looking for love as well and you have a general connection, but just hasn't noticed you in a romantic way,  if you plan on being a wonderful partner for this person, you would be giving that person the gift of love if you cast a spell that would make them want to look in your direction and want to give you some extra time and focus in order to get to know you.  

But it helps if you truly love the person and that person is available and looking too, but you need to be careful because Love spells can have all sorts of strange effects.  It can work on you instead of the other person and make you desire them even more than you already do, so that you become obsessed and that would be unhealthy. 

If you want to do a love spell then try a spell for attracting love to you in general, without targeting a specific person. If you and a person you are interested in are meant to be together then it will work out. If not, then perhaps the spell will bring you to someone more suited for you.

It’s far healthier and more reasonable and it sets things up with the Universe, the Divine Presence to work things out better for you,  maybe you won’t met them at your work place, maybe you’ll go back to college or take up a hobby and meet them in class or at an event, where you are introduced.   

By having it open like that you won’t be hurt, and either that person will be with you for a day, a season, a year or forever, but you’ll know how it will work out and not have the pain of love unrequited.

In my next post on Love Spells, I’m going to do a few caveats on how some of them and to what degree they can work but you have to remember it is far better to do a general love spell to bring the right love to you, than it is to coheres someone to love you.   In my next post I’ll explain about compelling or force love spells.

Bright Blessings,

Ms. Q