Thursday, July 21, 2016

Slowly coming out of depression~~~~

Dear Readers,

This is Ms. Q.

Thank you all for your good wishes of sympathy on the loss of my family member, it has hit us emotionally harder than expected.

Only now am I finally slowly climbing out of the abyss of grief. 

There were moments of clarity where I felt much better and was able to answer a few questions, and then something would happen and send me right down back into that black hole of loss and emptiness.  

The old Victorians had the right idea that mourning should take a year, a year of deep mourning and then a 2nd year of lighter mourning, when things begin to be lighter but the loss is still felt.

In this 21st century I've encountered people who seem to think a person should get over it in a week and get right back into the "swing of things"------ If they only knew, if they really only knew.

With all the deaths that are happening here in the USA, and overseas, in Nice, France most recently, people should understand it can take years to come to terms with grief, you don't get over it, you only come to terms with it. 

Then all you can do to fill the hole left in you by your loss, is to mentally and emotionally plant a rose for remembrance, to release the butterfly of spirit, and let it soar into the heavens, to look up at the stars and although they are suns with planets revolving around them, so far distant, you can't help but feel that on one of those planets revolving around one of those star/suns there is life, and it goes on.

And perhaps from those star/suns the spirit of your loved one is looking at you so many light years away and is thinking of you as well. 

My niece is taking this hard as well, and we are being supportive of each other, knowing when to give a little space, when to speak, when to not speak and let the other work out their own thoughts.

For those of you who have posted questions to me, like more than a month ago, I have not forgotten you,  and I want to answer your questions clearly, with a clear and thoughtful mind and heart.

And I hope to start doing it soon, one question at a time, one clear focus at a time.

To help me get my mental focus back, I've been working on a post about the Perseid Meteor Shower
which is happening Now to August 23!!   I call this Fire Energy, and for those of you who collect, or gather energy water, you should do it at night when the meteors are showing,  I understand the high point will be August 12 through 14, but depending upon cloud conditions start collecting it now especially if your sky area is clear.

In my next blog post I'll explain why this should be added to you collection of sacred waters.

Blessings to all of you for your kind thoughts and your patience,

Ms. Q


  1. Ms Q, the death of a loved one is so hard to handle emotionally. It doesn't seem to matter what age you are. I tell older people to get a digital recorder and start telling stories of your life; the good, the bad and the ugly. Leave it for those to remember you and the family history. Your family and those who love you will appreciate hearing your voice after you're gone.

    1. My Dear that is so true.

      With the advent of video recorders even the very early ones that were monsters, various family members started recording the eldest family members, I had an old reel to reel recording and Granny recorded stories that she told me as well as members of her group but because I knew that such recordings could be de-magnetized, I transcribed what they spoke of into notes, for physical reference.

      My niece is typing them out more clearly and filing them both as hard copy in a file cabinet, and on a flash drive for reference, which helps me.

      Recently I have been recorded by family members because I remember the old stories and what happened to different family members, what makes it more interesting to them is the way I tell the stories, I could make a tragedy also be a comedy. Like the time my Great Aunt was not in her coffin and the funeral parlor was questioning why her son (who was a bit soft in the head) wanted to bury an empty coffin----Very long story which included my Uncle Henry getting stuck behind a steering wheel and had to do the Limbo and crawl out of his daughter’s (my cousin) very small car. To this day I don’t know why he wanted to drive it. He kept yelling (in the funeral parlor parking lot) that the car was a jinx, a Jonah.

      And then when my other great-aunt opened the casket she screamed and fainted because there was no body in the casket, and everyone was yelling so Granny used the funeral home’s phone and called her daughter, my Aunt who was a nun and she brought with her Sister Filomena of the Sacred Heart of Jesus who was only 4 ft. 2 inches tall and must have been a 100 years old if she was a day and when she showed up everyone behaved. Even the Priest was scared of Sister Filomena.

      My Uncle Henry (who looked like Clint Eastwood gone to seed) went to the funeral director and grabbed the man by the lapels and demanded to know where our Great Aunt was….

      All’s well that ended well, it was a mistake that the funeral parlor was hoping to correct (because of my “soft in the head” cousin), with the help and thanks to my Aunt Sister Mary Margaret and Sister Filomena. Sister Filomena could be scary, but I swear when she and my Granny got together they’d laugh about the foibles of human nature.

      By the time I got through reciting this story to the family (which recorded it) all the family members were rolling on the floor laughing. I still smile remembering how my Uncle Henry who was skinny, got stuck behind the steering wheel and had to wiggle down and crawl out of my cousins car, still can’t figure out how that happened.

      Bright Blessings,
      Ms. Q

  2. Dear Ms. Q,
    I am very happy to have updates from you. This is the first time I post a comment, I follow your blog and read the posts in order to learn more about hoodoo practice. Thank you for the helpful information you give us. I really hope that you will feel better.
    Blessings from France

    1. Thank you my Dear,

      I am coming out of my depression and slowly "getting my mojo back".

      I'm currently catching up on the questions that have been asked and I have a lot of catching up to do.

      And then I'll get back into writing my blog once again.

      Bright Blessings to you, Mon Ami (I hope I spelled that right)
      Ms. Q