“Dear Ms. Q,
My boyfriend broke up with me----my husband left me for another woman she’s doing a spell on him-----I am hoping to get back with the father of my child, but he’s with another woman----
Can I do a reconciliation spell to get him back?”
Dear Readers, This is Ms. Q,
I get (very frequently) women, ex-girlfriends, jilted lovers, abandon wives, single girl friends with a child, all pleading with me to help them reconcile with their boyfriend, husband, ex-lover, father of their child, but the most direct question asked of me is this-----
“Dear Ms. Q,
Do Reconciliation Spells work?”
I can only answer in one way-----MAYBE.
Yes Dear Readers, Maybe.
I’m first going to do a warning, if you come across someone who says “I can do Reconciliation work and make it happen” and charge you a lot of money, Run, don’t walk to the nearest exit. You’ll only be wasting your money.
Any True reputable practioner, root worker, psychic, gypsy fortune teller will tell you reconciliation spells are extremely difficult and frequently fail. Now that is not to say that they always fail, but most of them do.
And for these basic reasons:
When people break-up there are good reasons why they become ex’s and your efforts are better spent on finding a better partner. But only you can decide if your new ex is worth the time and effort for this work. 80 percent of the time, it’s not.
Usually in my experience Reconciliation is the most difficult to accomplish. The reasons for failure include: left over anger on the part of either party, total apathy on the part of the desired party, and/or a change of heart by the person doing the spell when they remember why they broke up and didn't want that person's love after all because the problems that led to the original breakup remain even after the reconciliation takes effect.
Most root workers including Cat Yronwood and others avoid doing this kind of work because of the limited success---- As posted by Lukianos on a forum:
“Reconciliation work is, indeed, highly varied (How long has the person been gone? Why did the person leave? Is there another partner(s) in the picture? Children? Etc.), and often comes bundled with lots of drama, conflicting emotions, and changing stories as new details come to light in the case. In addition, each day that passes diminishes the likelihood for a successful reconciliation, even with intensive spell-work by an experienced practitioner--if it's been more than a month (especially if the relationship is not of long standing), the prospects aren't good.
So, we have a combination of:
1) often complicated cases (and often with salient details omitted for one reason or another),
2) clients who may actually be more interested in revenge than in loving reconciliation, and who may actually sabotage the work being done, or, if the lost partner does come back in response to the spell work, may drive the partner away again by picking fights, etc.,
3) a limited time frame where work is likely to have a chance of success, which in turn leads to
4) a limited overall success rate for reconciliation work, in general.
All in all, a difficult type of work to make a career out of, unless one has an exceptionally high tolerance for both drama and failure, and a low need for providing effective and satisfactory services to one's clients. It is far, far easier to specialize in drawing new love for clients.
For these reasons (and more besides), relatively few root workers…. will do reconciliation work for hire (despite the high demand for it). That is not to say that there aren't plenty of folks out there who will happily take money from the love-lorn in return for "reconciliation work", but we are, for the purposes of this discussion, limiting ourselves to honest and ethical practitioners of root work.”
This is so true, that is why I will not do reconciliation spells or rituals, but instead suggest the client do it but I also include a time line to find out if it will happen because most of the time, when a client asks me for help the ex has been out of the picture or relationship for some time.
And if the ex does not come back with in the first month, the chances of bringing the ex back start going down, down, down.
So if you have a breakup, don’t waste time Start a Honey Jar immediately, to keep him/her thinking about you maybe even wishing for you, later once you get your head back together after you’re through burning his clothes or bleaching her dresses, (both things not good to do, it could result in a law suit), then you can start doing a break up spell between your ex and their new lover. But it is important to do that Honey jar to keep him sweet and thinking about you and in attune with your love vibe, otherwise all is lost.
But you have to remember the thing with this type of work is you might be working on your ex for a long time. You have to decide if your ex is worth the effort, or you would rather find another lover. I know of people who have been working on their partners, since they met and have to keep working on them to keep them under control. That is exhausting and not good energy wise because continuous magical work is needed to keep those relationships going and leaves you little energy for anything else.
With this then the reconciliation work is continuous and if the partners were not compatible to begin with then it’s only magic that holds the relationships together not real love and compatibility it is not an ideal love relationship, and there for you have to ask yourself is it really worth all that expense and energy.
Before I met my husband I had been in love multiple times and even worked reconciliation magic and some of it worked but then I discovered when I was away from my ex (or ex’s) that I really was better off, so I’d then do a cut and release spell (sometimes called Cut and Clear), and get that guy right out of my hair.
So if you have a fight and think you need a Reconciliation, quickly do first a Honey Jar to hold things together for the time being, then go to a reputable practitioner and have a reading done to see if a Reconciliation spell will be shown as the right thing to do through a reading. Ideally, the reading will indicate a green light for the conjure work and the work will succeed.
But if the person is not right for you, a reading will usually reveal this -- and also reveal that doing a Reconciliation spell will not work or bring the desired results.
Now I have done this and I’ve turned down cases. When that happens, the client will seek out another reader, and if they are not happy with the reading then another until they met one who will be happy to take their money but produce nothing.
Sadly I’ve had clients who refused to believe the reading. This is why so many reader-workers are reluctant to deal with Reconciliation cases -- no matter how hopeless the reading tells us things are, a certain percentage of clients will INSIST that we "do something” when it’s really better that they move on, and heal from the emotional bruises and if need be get a lawyer (in the case of marriage or child support)
And I have had clients who come back to me and say “You were right. Now what do I do?” I really wish they’d realize that before they waste their money.
But that’s not to say that it can’t happen, sometimes it can, and I have here a couple of reconciliation spells that have been around for a long time that seem to work.
Here’s one that Mrs. Byrd used when her husband was stepping out with a, as she called her “High Flying woman”
Write the full name of the person you want to attract, nine times.
Rotate the paper 90 degrees and write your name at the top of another name nine times so you cross it. Cut the paper in the shape of a heart. Fold this paper heart (always bending toward you), to attract the person to you. Fold it three times.
Take a small glass bottle that you've filled three-fourths with a sweetener (such as honey, syrup for pancakes, Karo or corn syrup). Put the paper in the syrup. Add a little sugar to it. Close the bottle and place it near a stove or a heater, and leave to warm and moisten. This will turn the mutual love.
When you have finished with this spell of reconciliation, if you want to him stay close, bury the bottle in your backyard.
To Bring Back a Lover
Add nine drops of Van-Van oil and a bit of sugar to a cup of water. Write the name of your former lover nine times in a paper, with red ink. Completely soak the paper in the Van-Van, sugar and water mixture. This will attract your ex-lover back to home, and will stay forever.
Homemade Spell for couple reconciliation
Take a plate of pewter or tin or a piece of tin metal, write the Psalm 85 on the back of this with the name of your loved one. Put it in a secret place in the House and read Psalm 85 out loud. Your loved one should return.
But this should be done soon after your ex has left and you’ve also started your honey jar.
Now I do give a time line to my clients when they do a reconciliation spell on their own, if the ex does not come back within 4 to 8 weeks, then your ex is not coming back and to move on, in the case of those who are married or have a child, a letter from your lawyer usually will produce results, some men will come back, some will throw hissy-fits, and some will accept the inevitable.
But if they throw hissy-fits then light a “Just Judge” candle to win your court case, and it will keep them on the straight and narrow.